Anybody who cares to review the non-fiction literature on sexual relationships of the past few years, or even the past few decades, especially the literature from different parts of the world, or just the literature from social environments that are different from one's own social environment, arrives at a simple conclusion: Most of what is written, simply is wrong.

Some sources are just outdated, and they give the feel of being outdated already through the antiquated English that is used. But it doesn't stop there. Even contemporary sources, and even scientific sources usually do not reflect what each of us has learned on some very essential sexual questions.

What do women want? What do men want? What are the best sexual strategies? What should I be, how should I present myself, what can I do to have optimal sexual opportunities (or, land the best gal or the best guy).

Why do so many sources that we may consult get things so wrong?

The point is simply: there is so much variety among different social environments, that whatever the rules for successful mating might be in one environment, chances are they won't apply to another one. And the more pluralistic today's societies become, the greater the difference between the "styles" that are rewarded by the best sexual opportunities.

But while there are differences, there are also similarities. It's just that one has to define to which environment different rules apply.

Southeast Asian societies, by and large, are not as pluralistic as European societies. But in between Asian societies, the differences are much more pronounced than in between European societies. This is not just the case for such macro-cultural aspects such as language, script, religion, and form of governments.

The modes of sexual conduct also vary greatly, and with it, the settings in which Western men will best score sexually.

I have lived in Southeast Asia for several years, I have traveled to, and researched for sexual opportunities, all except Brunei.

In every Southeast Asian country, I have friends who have chosen their particular country because they are convinced that for sexual relationships, the country they have chosen is best.

But they are just optimally adapted to one country. And the modes that work best in Thailand are completely wrong for Indonesia, and if you want to find in China what you have in Cambodia, you will be very disappointed.

The differences among the countries in Southeast Asia are fundamental. But you can have satisfying sexual relationships in each of them. Provided you know what to look for, and provided you don't look for the wrong thing in the wrong country.

Adapting to a specific country can take many months. When those who have previously adapted to one Asian country move to another one, they will invariably try the same patterns that worked so well in the previous country...and fail miserably. Unless they have proper guidance.

The "sexual opportunities" member section does provide such guidance. And in addition to articles that provide proper insight, members are encouraged to communicate with me directly by email. The information people are looking for often is very particular.

Some people try to find answers by searching on the Internet. The short-coming of this approach is that many people who publish their hints on the web know just one country. There is, to the best of my knowledge, no other website apart from mine, that would compare Southeast Asian countries among each other for their prospects of sexual exploits.