| Which country offers what
Version 1, November 2005
I will try to provide a short run-down, in alphabetical
order, on what you can expect in some Asian countries.
CAMBODIA
You won't find a Cambodian girl who will enter a sexual
relationship with a foreigner because she is interested in
sex, and not even in love. The interest is almost always in
money. This goes for prostitutes as well as for those who
become the wives, or sort-of wives, of foreigners. Plenty
of foreigners in the country, many affiliated with NGOs.
There are also a large number of Cambodians who have fled
during war times to Western countries, and who have since
returned (and often are subtly anti-Western).
CHINA
Ordinary Chinese girls will not speak English. However,
female students in a language program, or young women who
are on a career course often find it helpful and
appropriate to have a foreign boyfriend. In local discos,
foreign men are usually considered attractions. You can
also find women (mid-twenties and older, not prostitutes)
who will approach on their own a foreign man whom they
consider attractive. Outside of the main urban centers,
foreigners are rare (and all the more considered an
attraction).
INDONESIA
This was a very charming country until only a year or two
ago, though it was even more charming some 10 years ago.
However, there have been developments which have turned
this country into a less-than-ideal destination. First,
anti-Western sentiment has been on a steady rise in the
post-Suharto years. Law enforcement against so-called
social ills (including sexual relationships outside Islamic
norms) has become rather strict. Young Indonesian women may
still be attracted to Western foreigners, but the emphasis
is now more on marriage than used to be the case.
JAPAN
Both white and black men are considered better, and
better-endowed, lovers than Japanese men. Japanese women
interested in love affairs with foreign men may take the
lead in arranging the relationship.
MALAYSIA
Young women of all three ethnicities, Malay, Chinese, and
Indian are genuinely attracted to Western men. However,
don't expect any intimacy with Malay girls before marriage.
The punishment for being alone in a room with a Malay woman
is either on-the-spot marriage or prison. The marriage
option is open even for those men who are married already.
For non-Malay girls (Chinese, Indian), promiscuity and even
prostitution are legal.
PHILIPPINES
You can definitely have love relationships with Filipinas,
and the fact that English is widely spoken, indeed,
facilitates such love relationships. On the other hand,
because English is so widely spoken, you cannot as easily
distinguish yourself by learning the local language. If you
speak Chinese in China, Indonesian in Indonesia, or even
Thai in Thailand, your options are much better than those
available to newcomers. There is no such distinction in the
Philippines because most people anyway speak English.
THAILAND
A principal social concept in Thailand is that daughters
give money to their parents. In the past, many rural girls
achieved this by becoming prostitutes. I assume that much
fewer girls in Thailand now become prostitutes. But the
imperative that daughters provide support for their parents
is still strong. If they speak enough Thai to communicate
what they want, foreigners can marry local girls, provided
they pay dowry of 5000 dollars or more. There is no
necessity to register a marriage (thus officially, there is
no marriage), but even the Thai side will normally not
expect the marriage to last forever.
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